Saturday, December 17, 2016

When I Absolutely Will Not Return a Comment


Some comments feel like the equivalent to being called upon by a telemarketer.  The contact is nothing more than an ad, and the comment is not tailored to me, but instead they are the same rehearsed line of crap that was left to the blog before me, and no doubt used countless times after me.

These comments are worthless as far as adding to the conversation, showing appreciation, or even pleasant to receive.  They are a lame attempt to drum up business.  I know this is true, because the lamest of them are almost always followed up with a link and a plea to visit them back.  Not that everyone who leaves a link falls into this lame bunch.  I am talking about the comments that make it painfully obvious that they are not interested in the post, like:

"This is great, here's my blog."  
"Thanks for sharing.  Here's my post."
"Great review.  Visit me here."
"Nice books. Here's mine."

Do you know that not only have I seen some of these shit comments from the same bloggers repeatedly, but I have actually discovered where the person copy and pasted the same damn comment on every blog on the meme list!  

Hell no.  I no longer have the time to reward people by giving into their ridiculous tactics.  I have books to read, non-sales based bloggers to visit, and a real life that takes priority of following along with such shenanigans.  

Alternatives To Being A Lazy Commenter:

  • Stop forcing yourself to comment on blogs that you don't give a shit about.
  • Instead, follow blogs that you have a genuine interest in so that you can easily leave a meaningful comment.
  • Visiting less blogs and leaving less comments is better PR than dropping one sentence wonders all over the place.
  • See that you are ruining any chance you have of being taken seriously with this approach and are developing a reputation that isn't so good.
  • Acknowledge that you reap what you sew.  Have you looked at the comments your receiving?  I bet they are almost as pathetic as the ones you are leaving.
  • Recognize that not every post requires a ton of comments, and embrace the fact that it really doesn't matter anyway.
  • Put work into your own posts/ blog so you can receive comments without being a desperate jerk.
  • Accept the fact that this gig may have run its course for you and it's time to throw in the towel.


34 comments:

  1. Yes yes yes! That's why I only follow about 11-12 blogs with any regularity. I hate receiving "fluff" comments from people.

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    1. I am really starting to see the advantages of that method of following, Amanda, but these comments aren't coming from people who I follow. They just seem to be making the circuit. I just don't see the fun in it.

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    2. Oh, gotcha. Yeah, I don't either. I just tend to ignore people like that. I'm not going to respond to people's comments when there's really nothing there to respond to, ya know? Great post topic, by the way.

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    3. I don't blame you. Thank you.

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  2. This is so great for me to read as a relatively new blogger. There are a few people who regularly leave these sorts of comments on my blog. I'm glad I'm not the only one who finds them really annoying. Do you ever not approve them, delete them, or take out their link?

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    1. I have my blog on auto approval, so I just let the comment be. I don't bother removing them most of the time, and I leave the link since it doesn't make a difference one way or the other. I just won't return the visit. I used to take sort of a passive aggressive approach, which I am not to proud of, by replying with something as equally as lame like, "Thank's for popping in." Now I just ignore them rather than to beat my head against the wall with trying to come up with something to say. After awhile they go away because they aren't getting a visit in return, but there is always some other lazy ass to come along after them. It's just the nature of our self-centered society to have a few like this I suppose.

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  3. Thanks for sharing. Here's my post.

    Lol jk ;-)

    I completely agree. When I get these kinds of comments, I either don't bother to visit their blog in return, or I just don't even care and leave them the same type of comment because why should I bother putting in effort if they don't? I don't understand how people get enjoyment out of blogging if those are the kinds of interactions they're having.

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    1. Bahahaha. You had me there for a second.
      One would think that giving it back would work, but I honestly don't think that they care if you leave a lazy comment in return. It appears that they often just want a lot of comments. I am finding that not visiting them at all makes most of them disappear after awhile.
      I agree. What is the fun in it? It's like they are looking for a fast track to internet fame without the work, which is not likely to work, and ridiculous. Sincere bloggers, which I think there are a lot, blog and comment for the love of books, and that's the end of it. It would seem like miserable work to click, comment, click, comment..... in such numbers.

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  4. Yeah, those comments that don't really have anything to do at all with the post they're on are pretty much useless to me, too. And it does take quite a bit of time to visit the blogs I do enjoy reading, and where I can leave comments that are personal, you know? Good thing I don't get a lot of those kinds of comments, but I think I'd also not just comment back (nor visit) if it happened a lot.
    The reason why I started a blog was to actually discuss books and stuff with other bloggers... just leaving a two-word comment and a link doesn't really create a good atmosphere for discussions.
    I love your different points, too, especially the one about not leaving comments on stuff we don't give a shit about...
    Lexxie @ (un)Conventional Bookviews

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    1. Yes. I totally think that there is a way to leave a genuine comment without beating your head against the wall, and that is by only commenting on posts that we are truly interested in. I don't expect a blogger who isn't interested in the genres that I read to go on a wild tangent of excitement about the books that I will be reading this winter, so they shouldn't feel like they have to bother.

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  5. Lol. You're funny. I always figured part of being in a meme is going to the blogs and commenting. Which is work I don't necessarily enjoy, so the only meme I participate in is Sunday Salon. I also don't tend to follow a lot of blogs that participate in memes (other than the basic weekly update meme). I hate seeing my feed bogged down with Whatever Wednesdays. In fact, I just did a whole Bloglovin' overhaul and dumped all the blogs, leaving only my few favorites as well as people who are participating in my challenges next year or who put "real" comments on my blog regularly. It's so refreshing!

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    1. Oh, I think memes are wonderful, and they absolutely are for visiting and commenting on other blogs. It's just crazy to try to visit them all and try to come up with something intelligent to say, especially if our reading preferences are vastly different.
      I recently cleaned out my Bloglovin' too. There were a lot of blogs that have either changed what they are reading or not posting at all, so I went ahead and left the room for blogs that I visit regularly. It is refreshing, isn't it?

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  6. I absolutely love this. The struggle is so real as a new blogger between wanting to get your name out there, in a sense, but also staying true to who you are, not a spam artist. And it really comes down to the bullet point about being taken seriously. The people in the community who I take seriously as book bloggers are also amazing commenters. They leave real comments, and *a lot* of them. It's an art and takes real effort to connect with that many people. I take note of the bloggers who leave comments that are obviously spam and avoid their blogs- I don't really want to hear what they thought of a book, or anything really, because I fundamentally don't respect them. Is that harsh? It sounds harsh lol. Oh well.

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    1. No need to feel like you are being too harsh around here, Katie. I agree that it is simply easier to connect with bloggers who I regularly have a conversation with, and who I respect. I think that new bloggers do well when they keep in mind that slow, but real, growth is better than fast growth of followers who don't have a genuine interest. It sounds like you got that. :)

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    2. I agree Katie, about the fine line. I started out the insincere way on my old blog and realized quickly that it got insincerity in response. So a couple years ago I started a new blog and took on an anti-meme policy. I try to participate in challenges, though. That's how I find new blogs that have similar interests.

      As for respecting people that put thoughtful comments on many blogs, I can't agree more. One person that especially impresses me is Brian at Babbling Books. I just don't know how he does it!

      I love seeing my hits and comments increase, but I'm over trying uber-hard to get followers.

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    3. Very well said, Rachel. I used to do a lot of memes too, but have kind of cooled my jets on them. They are a wonderful way to interact, but there are some that don't encourage commenting because of the nature of the post.

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  7. I have to start out with one of your "worthless comments" but only because this post really is great. Sometimes the truth is harsh but you hit this subject on the nose.

    It is so easy to fall into the "Thanks for sharing" trap when one wants to visit every single blog on a meme linky. Unfortunately, it only leads to insincere comments that are obviously canned. I try to reply to my comments but what can you add to hey cool blog, follow me here. My excitement from receiving a new comment quickly desolves when I see one of the above statements. The purpose for book blogging (to me) was to discuss books with like-minded people and it defeats the interaction.

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    1. Thank you, Whitney. It really does defeat the purpose of why most of us started, and I think that many of those who have fallen into the habit of lazy commenting started with good intentions and then lost their way. At least I like to think so.
      I am guessing that those who don't interact in a sincere way are not even enjoying blogging anymore, and that's why I suggest that it might be time to throw in the towel, but I have always been of the mind to let things go when they aren't working anymore.

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  8. *Slow clap*

    As much as I value reciprocal commenting, I draw the line where it's pretty obvious the commenter didn't really read my post. But hey, that's just me. *shrugs*

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    1. Thanks, Joy. I gather there are some who are just happy to have the comments, but me, not so much.

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  9. This is all so true. Lame comments are pointless. They never make me want to go visit the person, but if someone leaves a thoughtful comment, it does get me wondering what they are blogging about. And eekkk re the copy and pasting to everyone in a meme, they are fooling no one.

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    1. I know! There had to have been plenty of others who saw the same comment! I was embarrassed for the silly twit.

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  10. Great Post, Toady! Not really sure what it was about, but the pictures were great.
    Here's my latest post: https://dannimae.com/2016/12/22/zero/

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    1. Bahahahaha. You are an ass. For you though, I will check out that post....But I'm not commenting! I'm not!

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    2. Don't forget to like my post, share my button, retweet, and follow me on goodreads, facebook, instagram, pinterest, bloglovin, wordpress, and twitter!!!!

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    3. You are such a twit, and I love you.

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  11. “One sentence wonders” is my new favorite phrase ever.

    I get a lot of meaningless comments on Top Ten Tuesdays, book hauls, and Sunday Posts. If someone leaves a 2-word comment and a link, I don’t visit their blog. You don’t have to be a brilliant commenter, but at least make an effort.

    Here’s my link: Aj @ Read All The Things! I demand you follow me on every social media site ever so I can spam you with my stunning one sentence wonders. (Just joking.)

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    1. You're funny. :)
      I agree, I don't expect that comments be masterpieces, but it is nice to feel like there is another reason for commenting other than to drive traffic to their site. It is harder to comment on some memes than others I know, but still...

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  12. Great post! And lest you think that I will follow this comment with my link (LOL), I have also been looking around your blog...and love what I'm seeing. Have I never been here before, or have you made changes?

    In your sidebar, I see the book I read this week: I See You. Loved it!

    I also love the photo above your caption "Who Is Toady?"

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    1. Thank you kindly, Laurel. I do believe that you visited my BB Weekly before, but I have made some changes to my layout. I appreciate you having a look around.
      I am enjoying I See You, but I have been distracted by another book that I am reading at the moment. I really shouldn't do this to myself. Each time I try to read more than one book it seems like it slows everything down.

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  13. Haha! This is so true. I love your honesty. I don't participate in a lot of weekly things just because I can't stand those sorts of forced comments on my site. Thanks for sharing this, someone needed to say it!

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    1. Thank you, Karen. I believe that it needed to be said too, and by doing so, I have almost entirely eliminated such comments. Yes!

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  14. Haha, I wouldn't go so far as to suggest that people leaving these comments should give up on blogging, but I definitely share your dislike of these comments. I don't understand what people are thinking when they leave comments that are thoughtless or just promoting their own blog.

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  15. :) I wasn't saying that they should, but I suggest that they consider the possibility if they aren't really enjoying the gig. I quite think that it is all about getting more traffic the lazy way, and I don't see the point. Unless you make a living from blogging, and very few of us do, then I don't see any reason to do it any other way than for pleasure.

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